Sunday, May 10, 2009

Mother's Day

Today is a day meant to celebrate the mother's from all over the world. Everyone gets on the bandwagon and buy cards, presents, flowers, goes out to eat and celebrate it. I have always loved this day not because of the cards, presents or flowers that I get but because each year it makes me look at the blessings I have as a mother and a stepmother. I have 3 beautiful children special in their own way. This day I get to celebrate my children as the essence of my womanhood...I am a mother through and through. Growing up I did not dream to be a mother to a 12 year old daughter and stepmother to a 12 year old son at the age of 30. My plans were so different from what my life is now but I have no regrets. I can not regret the gift of the birth of each of my children.

Noah who may not be mine biologically is my son just as much as Eli is. He is growing up to be a sensitive young man, mindful of other people's feelings. He is also a young gentleman, he holds doors open for me and his sister. He loves to help and nothing pleases him more that being able to help you do anything that you need help with. He loves me and cares for me.

Chaye was born the year I turned 19. I can say the she and I grew up together. She thought me how to be selfless, on arrival I have learned that her needs had to come first before mine. Unplanned but very much wanted I fought for her birth into this world literally and figuratively! She is growing into a fine young lady, she is very gifted and talented at the same time very much a pre-teen. Mood swings and pouty days I love her just as much if not more since the moment I laid my eyes on her. She reminds me of choices I have made earlier in my life that made me who I am today - a better, stronger woman.

Eli, my second chance or more appropriately Tim and I's second chance. He is the ours in yours, mine and ours. He is the combination of both Noah and Chaye. My pregnancy with him was God's gift to me to experience pregnancy as a joyful time. I was surrounded by people who truly celebrated my pregnancy and were genuinely happy for that moment in my life. I was older and appreciated the meaning of motherhood. I could not say that I was more prepared because I do not think one can ever be really prepared for the birth of a child. Everything was just as I hoped and dreamed for it to be and more! Eli just turned 3 on May 1st. He is a smart, witty and loving child. There is no better moment that takes my breath away when he looks into my eyes and tells me that he loves me without being prompted. He can carry a conversation with anyone by the time he was 2 years old! Now at 3 he is showing so much depth in his vocabulary although he constantly reminds us of how he picks up everyword that comes out of our mouths weather it is good or bad.

My children are everything to me, I could not imagine my life without them. I strive to be the best mother that I could be to them. For me everyday is mother's day because I get to enjoy moments with my children that will forever be ingrained in my mind. I get to celebrate my role in their lives by being there for them. I am not a perfect mother but I love them the way only a mother can love their children.